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My mama lost her best friend yesterday.  My father had a heart attack right in their living room and they couldn’t revive him. His heart has been getting weaker as the years go on but you’re never prepared.  She’s a wreck. They just got back from a cruise and were planning on taking a cruise in April to Hawaii for their 50 anniversary and were doing it in April because they knew he might not make it to their 50th.  They had 47 years of marriage together, 4 kids, 6 grandkids and 2 greatgrandchildren.  My 4 year old grandson is a  high-functining autistic and my father was always worried about his speech but fortunately he began speaking much better this past year so he got to him hear talk relatively clearly.  My 3 year old granddaughter is very smart.  My daughter showed her a picture of “grandpa” (so she knew which she was talking about) and told her that grandpa was dead and up in heaven with her cousin.  She understands what that means, that she won’t be seeing him anymore.  Thankfully my baby brother still lives at home so he will be there with mom so she’s not completely alone.  They were bestfriends, they did everything together.  Once we were all grown and on our they started taking a cruise once a year which they deserved because I remember when my little brother was born (he’s 4 years younger than me) my father was working 2 full time jobs to support us all and he eventually quit one because my little brother was afraid of him because he didn’t know who the strange man was.  Once he was home more they have had a very close bond.  But not to fret, my father was tired of always hurting and being sick (he had been in and out the hospital a lot the last few years) and now he’s with his brother.   So now in the last year we have lost my fiance father (he passed away July of last year), my brother in law’s mother (she passed away August of last year) and now my daddy.

Then last night my mother tells me she has to watch her sugar and what she eats because protein is beginning to drip into her kidneys.  This is exactly what has happened to my boss and now he needs a kidney transplant and dialysis because his kidneys are only functioning at 10-16% (see prior blog about my boss).

Working on my father’s estate is not going to be easy (that’s the sucky part of working for a lawyer right now) but at least everything will be explained by me and not some stranger.  We’re not doing anything with that until later next week.

My fiance and I have a relationship like my parents did.  We do just about everything together.  We shop together, prepare meals together, clean the house together, work out together, drive to work together.  He, like my father was to my mother, is my best friend. I can understand what my mother is going through.

I’m rambling now, so I shall end this.

Take care everyone and remember to live everyday to its fullist with your friends and family, you never know when something will take them away.